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Building Trust Bit by Bit

October 15, 2013

Black Couple looking around a treeLike a piece of glass, trust is almost impossible to repair once broken. This is a troubling realization given the crucial role that trust plays in having a healthy relationship. To reinforce the foundation of your trust and repair any cracks that may be starting to form, here are 10 bits of advice to improve trust in your relationship:

  1. In marriage, secrets are as dangerous as lies. Don’t hide anything from your spouse.
  2. Accept responsibility even when it’s embarrassing. It shows you have character.
  3. Be willing to put your spouse’s Needs before your Wants.
  4. Spending quality time together nurtures love and trust.
  5. Honesty in marriage requires more than just telling the truth. Tell them everything you’d want to know.
  6. Listen; truly listen, to your partner’s concerns and complaints without judgment. This opens the door to confiding which is an act of trust.
  7. Blame, insults and put downs are landmines that can destroy any bridge of trust.
  8. Especially in the little things, be a person of your word.
  9. Own up to your mistakes and take responsibility for your behavior.
  10. A willingness to sacrifice shows dedication and loyalty.

Marriage Works! Ohio offers several programs based on Dr. John Van Epp’s Relationship Attachment Model. Dr. Van Epp illustrates how your level of trust should be second only to how well you know someone. How do you maintain a healthy level of trust in your relationship?

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  1. October 16, 2013 5:40 am

    Dr John- love your list but I would argue that trust is not impossible to repair once it’s broken. It all depends how much trust was “banked” in the relationship before the breach. The more trust in the bank account, the easier to repair!

    Barbara Kimmel, Executive Director
    Trust Across America – Trust Around the World

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